Friday, July 01, 2005

I Need a Break

Do you ever get sick and tired of being the friend that listens to others problems? I do, all the time. And recently its getting worse. Lately it seems like my friends are just putting themselves into stupid positions then they call me to ask me my opinion on what I think they should do. If you know me, you know that I am not the type of person who actually cares. I really could give a flying fuck about who is messing with who and in what position. I have 3 best friends and they all are really annoying me right now.

Best friend #1
I get many calls everyday and they all sum up to the same thing. "I slept with Mike. What should I do?" My reply to that is: that is your business. What can you tell someone when you feel like your words goes in one ear and out the other. If you are sleeping with Mike, Sean, Tom, Dick and Harry and you guys are all in the same area and they all play ball together, don't you think that one day they might just all find out? Common sense would tell me that if I am going to play games, at least do it in different zip codes.

Best friend #2
Now, this is a nigga that has too many tricks up his sleeves, they type of friend that always tells you the truth, but only when you ask. So if I happen to not ask I would never know. I guess people would call that the don't ask don't tell policy. But see, that only works if both of you are playing the game. I never knew that was the policy he was on until just one day, out of the blue I found out that he had a girlfriend. Then I found out that he bought a car. A few months later I found out that he bought a house and had moved. The next thing I know I am finding all these books about marriage around his house and in his car.
So I get a little pissed off because since when do you keep life changing events from your best friend? Nigga got me thinking that I lost my spot. Maybe we aren't as cool as I thought we were because I don't see how someone could forget to tell me things like that.
I don't keep my mouth shut when calls. If something is on my mind I will just say it, but you know what his response always is???? Here it goes..."I didn't tell you? I could have sworn I told you. I told somebody!" Well nigga there must be someone more important than me cause I never knew!

Best friend #3

This is the best friend that I referenced in the "Diamonds are Forever" post. I don't know what else to say, she is getting more and more crazy as her pregnancy progresses.

Am I wrong for not wanting to hear this shit any more? I just need a break!

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

ok, I try not to, um..whoa this is going to sound strange but, I don't really keep friends who like to cut cost and use me as a therapist. Don't get me wrong, I love to advise and help, and listen. I in fact love helpin a sistah out, especially if she's in the bestfriend catagory. But, it's not a go in my world. So shake these friends loose or get them intervention. I mean they say friendship is unconditional, but dude, we've all got limits and how you gon help them if they've spewed their craziness onto you, or burned you out. Wosah!

uzuri.afi said...

I just read your blog for the first time. I agree with the comment above me. i think you should count your blessings. Any friend that is a friend will be considerate to you and how you feel and make you a part of your life. You feel me? Any friendship worth having will not misplace their anger or fristrations or burdens on you. Its give and take. I wont lie. Bestfriend #2 tripped me out for real. But yeah, sometimes we grow in different directions and from what I see your on the up and up...it'll hurt but count it as a blessing in the long run.

Kazumi said...

It seems that you've created a situation in which they feel it's your job to be their ear. Just create on that makes them feel you don't want to hear it. Send them a link to this entry. Hee-hee. Sometimes when people read stuff, they get the hint you're talking about them.

SOULJOURNIN... said...

I am having the same problem right now!!!!!! I am tired of being the one that fixes everything...I need a break too!